I'm guilty of creeping on my husband multiple times a day when it comes to his physical attributes. This is not at all a bad thing on its own, but I realized that it's good to have balance when it comes to how you shower your partner with compliments.
This is especially true if you are in a relationship where words of affirmation are a top love language that your partner craves. If you're not sure if that's one of their top love languages, check out a quiz site like this and make sure they take the test!
Sure, we're all really attracted to our partners when it comes to their physical attributes, but what else do you love about them? And how can you express your love in the form of a compliment without it sounding forced or cheesy?
There will probably be a good amount of cheese when it comes to your compliments, but the key to making it sound genuine and really touch their heartstrings is to make it really personal.
Physical compliments can be lovely to hear, but they are often so general and not personal or well-though through. Think about phrases like, "baby, you look so good," or "your eyes are so beautiful," but what unique attributes does your partner have?
Take some of my examples for non-physical compliments below. These will be particular to my husband in a lot of ways, but you can use them for inspiration to highlight some of your partners' really good qualities. My husband also has a ton of qualities that I'm sure many good men share!
One thing I want to point out is that I've reserved the last few sentences to be ideas for compliments of gratitude. A lot of compliments can be based on gratitude and a bit of selfishness: some focus on how a person makes them feel or what they do for them.
But you want to see the bigger picture with your partner and see the good qualities that they have that aren't necessarily related strictly to you. It's always great to share how someone makes you feel, but don't forget about the other things they possess that can make others feel better as well.
You are such a warm presence to be around.
You're very helpful and loving, and not just to me!
You have so much patience, I need to be more like you.
I love the way you think.
You're so good to your friends and family members.
I love the way you express your feelings and emotions in your own way.
You need to be doing an open mic at a standup comedy show.
Are you real? (This one is one of his favorites, haha.)
I'm so happy you put up with me. (But be careful with the self-deprecation.)
You're giving off a lot of husbandly vibes right now.
You're like a superhero. (I said this on our first date, and I've said it since; he works in the paramedic field.)
You have better taste in music than I do!
You're so in tune with your spirituality and faith in a very honest way.
Your opinions matter so much, and they need to be heard; they are often spot-on.
You have such a mature way of dealing with your anger and aggression.
I love how your actions and your words actually line up.
I love how deep our romantic relationship and friendship roots are planted thanks to your character.
Your flaws and shortcomings make you even more beautiful of a man.
I'm so proud of your growth through the years.
Your food is consistently delicious; what a chef!
You have such a positive energy to be around.
You're the type of person to get through the toughest times without breaking.
You have so many good things going for you with all of those beautiful personality traits of yours.
I love the way you make me feel when I'm around you; your love feels like home.
You make me feel so secure and safe when I'm with you.
My life has felt elevated ever since we've been together.
You give me such selfless love that makes me believe in people more in general.
I love how beautiful you make me feel.
You do really great at loving me in my preferred love languages.
I'm so grateful for the efforts that you put into this relationship day after day.
